START WHERE YOU ARE
What might help right now?
You can use these tools for grief, stress, or a difficult day. Choose the closest fit—or browse without choosing.
Not sure? Start small.
Notice where you are, take a sip of water if you want, or ask someone safe for company.
OPTIONAL WAYS TO EXPRESS WHAT MATTERS
Memories, connection & meaning
You can use words, drawing, music, or private reflection. You can also skip this page. Choose your own pace and avoid revisiting details that feel too much right now.
Something I want to remember
Only if remembering feels okay today. A memory can be ordinary, funny, complicated, or unfinished.
- Choose a word, song, object, or small memory.
- Write or draw what it brings to mind.
- Decide where you want to keep it—or whether you want to keep it at all.
Things I wish I could say
Try an unsent note. You do not need to forgive, find a lesson, or make the ending positive.
- Start with “I wish…” or “I want you to know…”.
- Write only what feels manageable. Leaving it unfinished is okay.
- Afterward, do something grounding or spend time with someone safe.
What changed / what is still here
This can work for a death, a move, a friendship change, or another loss.
- Make two spaces on paper.
- In one, name something that has changed. In the other, name a support, value, routine, or part of yourself that remains.
- You do not have to balance the two sides.
My roots of support
Write four headings or draw a tree on paper. You choose what belongs in it.
- Roots: people, places, culture, or values that support you.
- Trunk: something that helps you get through a day.
- Branches: one connection or support you could reach toward.
Culture, community & your choices
If it feels right, ask a trusted Elder, Knowledge Keeper, family member, or community support person about ways of remembering and finding connection. Practices differ between families and communities. You can take part, ask questions, or choose not to participate.
You do not have to decide what the loss means or what you believe today.
Writing stays in this open page. It is not submitted to your school and clears when you reload or close the page. Keep private details out if you are using a shared device.
MAKE THE DAY MORE MANAGEABLE
School, friends & difficult dates
You can ask for support even if you look okay, your grades have not changed, or some time has passed.
At school
- Choose a safe adult and a place you can go when things feel heavy.
- Ask about a quiet check-in signal, short breaks, or a plan for catching up.
- Let your teacher know what you want classmates to know, if anything.
- Arrange who will check in if you leave class. You should not have to disappear to get a break.
Dates, events & reminders
- Birthdays, holidays, ceremonies, songs, or ordinary places can bring feelings back.
- Plan some company, a way to step out, and something gentle afterward.
- You can choose how much to take part and change your mind.
- You do not have to post online or take part in a public remembrance.
When you are supporting a grieving friend
Try a specific offer: “Do you want company at lunch?” Keep inviting them without pressuring them. Avoid “at least…” or “everything happens for a reason.” You can listen without asking how the person died.
If you think your friend may be unsafe, tell a safe adult. Do not promise to keep danger secret. Their safety is more than you should have to manage alone.